Friday, 25 January 2013

SHE is equal to HE





A woman is always expected to sacrifice her ambitions, aspirations and dreams for her family. But what is hidden is that she has to even let go off her self-respect a lot of times when the male ego in her better half rises.

My eyes were moist. It was not of the tears; it was of the helplessness that I felt within. It was so difficult to change the functioning, mind sets and conventional approach of scoiety. What happened a few minutes back did not just move me emotionally but also awakened the feminist in me.

The usual boring day at work had come to an end. I was walking towards the parking outside the office building when I heard a loud voice. Before I could turn and see who it was, another shriek within less than a second scared me. Across the road, was a man in his late 40’s walking and having an argument with a lady probably his wife. The woman had a svelte figure and the man looked as fit as a fiddle. The man was shouting on the top of his voice, abusing the lady. The lady replied back and the man could just not take this. He stopped and turned to the lady. Clamped her left hand firmly and twisting it behind kicked her hard on the butt. He raised his leg again to give the poor thing another kick.  Satisfied proving his muscularity he started walking again with his male ego drooling over his face. The lady was resilient. Probably she was used to such violence back at home.  I on the other just stood there shocked, horrified by the entire episode. 

Normally I am upfront and don’t think twice in getting into such things. When I see something wrong happening I usually jump into the event without thinking of consequences. After some minutes when I came to my senses I was feeling a combination of everything irritation, helplessness, frustration, anger! How could the man just abuse her physically? Who had given him the right to hit her? Why did I not go there and slap him, stop him? How could I just let it go? When will the society change? How do I bring the change?

There were too many questions rising with no concrete answers though! I got exposed to a harsh world which I knew existed but was oblivious to it. Such things happen every day and in a lot of Indian homes.  In an Indian household where Man was the head of the family, where he was declared the undisputed king, where he assumed it was okay to hit his wife. A household where a girl was taught that she had to adjust to all conditions and situations, she had to respect her husband irrespective of how he treated her. She had to let go if she was used as a trash bag.

When will India start treating a Woman equally as a Man? When will a woman get the same respect as the man in the family? When will the physically and mental violence against woman come to an end?

The system will change with education and awareness. Let us pledge to aware and educate as many people we can. The society still needs reformation. It is a continuous process. We can’t stop. I have decided that I will never stop. Until SHE becomes equal to HE.

16 comments:

  1. Hi Neha,

    Indeed, you've raised quite a few difficult questions in this post. Although it looks easy on paper, the problem comes during implementation. People and their ego usually prove to be quite resilient. I hope the future brings better days for us.
    Good post, keep it up :) :)

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    1. I hope that too... Have already voted for ur post. :)

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  2. Very nice post with a serious concern...What you have said has existed for several years, especially in India. But it is hardly noticed. Like you said, the system and society must change. I think, in the coming years/generations the society would change as the scenario is continuously changing!!
    Do visit my blog too!

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    1. Perfectly described... Time is the best healer..Hoping that with time the mindsets will change.

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    2. Well said... Time is the best healer... Hoping that with time the mindsets mite change.

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  3. Great thought and very well expressed, Neha!
    I'm all for it!!

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  4. I really don't understand when will we women every feel safe.. its not just an issue in this country but everywhere else.

    Thanks for the visit the other day.

    www.thetimesofmanyphases.blogspot.com

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    1. Exactly. We need to help ourselves I guess.

      You have an interesting blog.. Keep up the good work. :)

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  5. Hey...I have nominated you for the liebster award. Congrats!! :)
    http://akashgovind.blogspot.in/2013/02/and-liebster-goes-to.html

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  6. me tooo nominated u for the same award...
    You have just won Liebster award. To know more go to the following page http://day-to-daystories.blogspot.in/2013/02/liebster-award.html :)

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    1. Thanks Renu.
      Wow! 2 nominations in a go. Makes me all excited.
      Will be posting my answers really soon.

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  7. women seeking equal treatment implies they are under-aspiring. They can, and should, rule the world. It'll definitely be a better place then.

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  8. In a lighter vein

    http://imashwini.blogspot.in/2013/01/equal-treatment-for-men-women.html

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  9. Hi,
    I really feel the same. Sometimes I feel so strong and proud head as a women but incidents like this are like shoving my face to reality.

    And you have a flare for writing. Loved it.

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